Ladies, Know Your Worth

Always know your worth.

We all know the feeling of having a crush on someone; butterflies in our stomach and feeling nervous when he/she comes around. But I feel it’s important not to put too high expectations on the person because they are only human and were all flawed. Like if he tells you he’s going to call you, don’t wait by the phone.

Love is not about worshiping the other person; it’s about bringing your best self into the relationship. I realize that we’re not all going to be 100% perfect when we enter a relationship. People always used to tell me not to get in a relationship if I wasn’t ready, but I’ve been operating under “not ready” for months now and I want to put myself out there.

R&B artist Neyo has a song “Let Me Love You Until You Love Yourself”. Love is a very powerful thing. Maybe by being vulnerable and sharing yourself with someone you’ll be able to grow as a person and learn to love yourself.

It’s great to have supportive friendships, but we all long for a closeness and romance.

I met someone recently who makes my heart do handstands. You know when you just meet someone and your personalities just click. But I’ve got to be careful not to revolve my whole world around him because I have my own life.

Do you know what you’re looking for in a significant other? What qualities does your dream partner have? Are they tall, short, black, white, or Hispanic? Or does it not matter?

Whoever it is, I hope you have high standards. I hope they lift you up when you’re down. And I hope you know when to walk away if they don’t treat you well. Love is not a prison that you should stay in if it’s not working out. I spent years in toxic relationships and I’ve almost lost a sense of how a real relationship is supposed to go.

Know your worth and you will attract people that treat you right.

It can be very enjoyable to spend your time with another person.you get to learn all about them. Share yourself with them. I think a healthy relationship consists of honesty, loyalty, and compassion. Good communication is important too. The fella I referred to validates me. Not the kind of validation that’s unhealthy but he just lifts me up. It feels good.

There’s no point in being in a relationship if you’re not happy and not being treated right. The guy I like just asked me out, and that to me is what a real man does.

Also, some guys may not be looking for the same thing you’re looking for. They may just want to have sex and have a good time. Try not to get involved with someone unless you’re looking for the same things. That makes things so much more complicated and someone is bound to get hurt.

Once the sex talk starts, the guy may not want to go back to getting to know you. I talked to some guys on an online dating site and the conversation was mostly sexual, (therefore, dating apps suck!) However, not all guys feel this way, so please do not think that we are here to bash you! When the right guy comes along, you’ll know. You’ll feel it right away. And the sex talk will just be an added plus to something that is already going great! In the meantime, do not rush love. Wait until you find someone who knows what you’re worth and gives you respect daily. Life is too short to be with someone who is going to treat you like shit.