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Being in a committed relationship is a comforting and loving experience. Most likely your significant other is also your best friend. You know each other’s little quirks, likes, and desires all too well. Unfortunately, knowing each other too well could also translate to the bedroom. And, that could mean boring sex, less sex, or (heaven forbid) no sex!
When sex with my partner felt a little bit on the bland side, I looked for ways to spice it up. That led me right to the sex shop with $100 dollars worth of stuff recommended by a sales lady. I actually left that stuff at the counter and instead went home to put a little effort into arousing our sex lives without the help of my credit card. I found out that adding more bang to your sex life doesn’t always require a new toy or even spending any money. All it really needs is a little creativity.
To begin with, talking is underrated! When sex with my partner felt a little repetitive, I opened up the conversation to ask about desires. ‘Tell me your fantasy?’ ‘Would you like it if I did this or that?’ And, you know what? I found that one fantasy involved me sweeping my hair into two ponytails. That little move awakened a whole new sexual creature. There have also been a few role-playing sessions here and there. Yet, what is most important is that talking about our intimate desires brought us closer together and more adventurous to trying new things.
Christening a new place or piece of furniture is one of my favorite ways to add a little spice. We actually make a game out of it. Have we done it here, yet? Have we tried it there? Also, note that it doesn’t have to be a new house or car. When my partner started a new job he showed me his building after dinner one night and we ‘christened’ his office. Sometimes you just need to live life on the edge.
Leaving a note or a sexy hint for your partner to find throughout the day is a fun way to get the two of you aroused. Both of you will be thinking about the note all day and when the two of you see each other next, BOOM! Grab a post-it, scribble something on it and leave it in your partner’s pocket for them to find at work. One time, I even took it a step further and left a little something sexy in his car with a note reading, ‘I won’t need this tonight’. You get the picture.
‘Sensory Sunday’ was literally our thing for a while. It was a day to relax and stimulate our senses. Sometimes we would pamper each other with warm oil massages. Other times, we’d sit on the kitchen floor with blindfolds on and the refrigerator door wide open. Or, we would just enjoy an afternoon in bed kissing each other. The only rule we had was that we could not have sex. That had to be saved for Monday morning.
Red lingerie always drives my guy wild. When I did a little research, I found that men are literally hard-wired to be more attracted to women in red. According to a University of Rochester’s psychologist’s study, men find women more attractive when they’re wearing the color and are likely to want to have sex with her. So, slipping on a red dress or bra might just be a simple way to drive your guy wild.
Relationships offer a lot of chances to have fun both in and out of the bedroom. It just takes a little effort to move your sex life in a new direction. Yet, when you do the rewards will definitely be worth it for the both of you.